Self-sufficiency: Bullshit or a good way to live?

[gutawafang]

I definitely understand loneliness but if someone feels any bit worthless or negative purely by being alone rather than chilling with friends, they probably just have to figure out how to properly spend that alone time to the extent that they're more than satisfied with it. There has to be like a million different things that can properly occupy time without you feeling like shit. The world is huge.

Yeah exactly man. That's PS4 for me. The best distraction. I go online, kill people. I don't feel alone at all when I play online games man.

[Solace]

Well then the point is that you use it as a distraction...If it didn't distract you from the fact that you're unhappy alone you probably wouldn't have interest in playing video games at all. I'm not saying look for distractions, I'm saying look for things you can do completely alone and find genuine happiness/enjoyment from. And by "alone" I also definitely do not mean online video games with online friends.

[gutawafang]

Well then the point is that you use it as a distraction...If it didn't distract you from the fact that you're unhappy alone you probably wouldn't have interest in playing video games at all. I'm not saying look for distractions, I'm saying look for things you can do completely alone and find genuine happiness/enjoyment from. And by "alone" I also definitely do not mean online video games with online friends.

Writing songs.

[Solace]

Sure, if writing about your depressing life makes you happy yeah lol.

[TonyTilt]

I don't need people around me, granted I live with my girl but I have friends that call every day and really want to hangout and honestly I like my alone time.

[slims]

Being alone is cool because you can go whenever you want and do whatever you want without others saying they want to do something else. I'm perfectly fine doing things alone. I go out to eat by myself, go to the movies, I basically do everything alone.

[Alex2012]

Some will be very happy being alone, others will be happier being around people, it's a question of personality, we can't approve or do not approve, it's just like that. But human being are not done to live alone and personally I think we can't evolve if we dont have some interactions with other of our species.

[Amadeo]

Some will be very happy being alone, others will be happier being around people, it's a question of personality, we can't approve or do not approve, it's just like that. But human being are not done to live alone and personally I think we can't evolve if we dont have some interactions with other of our species.

The people who are "very happy being alone" usually have a passion/hobby, which is just a sophisticated version of an imaginary friend anyway.

I don't think anybody likes being truly alone. What I mean by that is just walking through the park on a cold winter's day with nothing but your own thoughts to occupy you. If you don't have some kind of distraction like a phone or the internet or food or entertainment, you're going to get hit with some feelings of depression, and people don't like that so they do anything to avoid it. They take their phone out, they masturbate, they eat...they do anything to avoid it.

Louis CK had a fantastic bit about this on the Conan show where he explains it much better than myself.