Virginity

[Tornado]

It's kinda fucked for men and women cos they'll always be double standards. For example, i work with this around-50 year old guy and he's unmarried but he's had like 9 kids from like 5 women but he wouldn't let no one touch his daughters even though he's no different from the young ones...it shouldnt matter but it does....

Religion does play a part but i know a SHITLOAD of muslim friends who smoke, drink, fuck etc...but some people are strong willed but to me it's stupid to live life to a rulebook, when you're ready, you are..

As for marriage...fuck waiting, i don't even think you even have to be in love. Just be safe

[BabyBLue91]

@Good Girls: lol that reason has kept me from doin soooooo much, i'm glad i thought of it
@Babe: lol yea, i'm kinda surprised your a virgin too, ofcourse i mean it in a good way

You're surprised ???
Hm, good thing I read the last part otherwise I would have been offended.

It's kinda fucked for men and women cos they'll always be double standards. For example, i work with this around-50 year old guy and he's unmarried but he's had like 9 kids from like 5 women but he wouldn't let no one touch his daughters even though he's no different from the young ones...it shouldnt matter but it does....

Religion does play a part but i know a SHITLOAD of muslim friends who smoke, drink, fuck etc...but some people are strong willed but to me it's stupid to live life to a rulebook, when you're ready, you are..

As for marriage...fuck waiting, i don't even think you even have to be in love. Just be safe

Being the only girl in my family, I know exactly what you mean about the double standards part. Maybe it's because they feel girls now can be taken advantage of easily.

[Arabian Shady]

haha, i'd never intentionally offend you babe

[EminemBase]

No I don't believe you should wait until you get married since marriage is meaningless to me, I'm an atheist and yes I think there is a double-standard for men and woman.

Due to the fact that evolutionary speaking, in the human species, we've always viewed man as the king, man as the stronger, faster and more useful gender.

So of course, there has always been that naturally embedded bias to tend towards man on anything and it's also why... I mean, having a lot of sex - Sex to a man, after the sexual revolution is became like a pride and glory thing so it's metaphorically viewed as like a male hunting prey lmao.

I know that sounds vulgar but it's true, this is why there is a bias.

[Elision]

I'm an atheist, and I'm not ashamed to say that I'm saving my virginity. Admittedly, I just recently turned 16, and frankly -- I'm in no hurry.

But I'm just waiting for the right person. After that first, I don't really care.

I do not, however think that anybody should ever judge and/or take action against others because of what they decide to do with their virginity. If you want to lose your virginity at 12, go for it. And anybody who tells you that it's "not right" is a capricious self-labeled overseer who needs to learn to evaluate him/herself before they start worrying about others.

[shadegirl]

i think you should wait until you been with the guy/girl atleast a few months if not longer. i say wait 6 months. because sex is no good unless you truley care about the person.

[Jens14]

I don't think there is a certain moment you need to wait for. And yeah, there is kind of a double standard. On one hand of course if you're a guy and have alot of sex, you get respect while it's the opposite when you're a girl mostly. But on the other hand if you're a virgin as a guy of 21 years old, your pathetic while if you would be a woman, you would get respect.

[Relapse.LP]

Hormones are such an irritating aspect of life.

Sexual drive diverts the mind from the essential, truer dimensions.

To answer the question, virginity, nowadays, has degraded itself to the term referenced in frequent social status reports. It is becoming more-often-used and lost its more religious aspect years ago.

[Doctor Skittlez]

Yo, Base, The Fuck Does Atheism Have To Do Wit' Marriage, Fam??? LOL...

Virginity... Difficult Topic... Lost My Virginity Las' Year... But I Think It Depends On The Person, Not Jus' The Gender. I Mean, I Got Friends, Girls N' Guys, Who Be Like "Fuckin' Is Fuckin'", They Don't Think Twice Bout Gettin' The Mack On... But, Fo' Me, It Had To Be Special, N' Wit' Someone I Cared About. So My Friend, Who's Bout Ten Years Older Than Me, She Said She'd Do It Wit' Me... But, Yeh, It Can Be A Double Standard, But Like I Said, It Often Depends On The Person.

Like, I Think That It Should Be Wit' Someone Who's Gon' Pay Attention To Yo' Needs, N' Care Bout You In The Sack, Y'Know? Like Every Time Should Be Makin' Love, Not Lust. After I Lost Virginity, I Started Studyin' Tantric. N' Now I Can't Do It Unless I'm Wit' Someone Who Gon' Become One Wit' Me, Become Part Of Me. But If People Wanna Wait, Like, Say I'm In A Relationship Or Somin', N' It's Goin' Somewhere, N' The Chick Wanna Wait Till She Get Married, I'ma Wait Wit' Her, Ain't Gon' Be Sneakin' Off On The Side Either.

[Mr. Chambers]

uhm.....where to start

wait for marriage?...no...

it proven that sex can both help and hurt relationships....it helps you feel closeness to your partner due to hormones released during sex and ejaculation or orgasm....helps strengthen the bond between two individuals....altho....on the other end it also adds more stress into a relationship becuz of this "Closeness"....sex almost adds the final nail into the "commitment" coffin....

i think you should do it when your ready to take on the responsibilities.......whether your talking about the commitment to one partner or talking about a child.....cuz regardless of how many precautions you take.......there is always that chance....

i lost mine @ 16...to a girl i just kinda liked.....and i somewhat regret it....i've never had any one night stands or anything os i kinda pride myself in not being a complete man ho.....but i do wish i woulda saved it for a woman i loved and could see myself spending the rest of my life with.....but i...just like every other teenage boy...have raging hormones too...and if you asked me the same question after i woulda said it was worth it.....its just one of those reflection things.....

[Kez]

Waiting until marriage for sex is just impractical; unless the girl wants to redecorate her bedroom walls the colour white in which case it's a good time-saver

[Tatiana]

Virginity is special. I don't believe you have to wait til you're married to loose it, I believe if you truly love someone and you never have to doubt yourself about it and you think it's the right time then do it! I don't see any harm in loosing it before you get married. Just don't loose it for the wrong reasons.

[MISSChievous]

It's really up to you. If you wanna go by the book and wait till you're married because you think it's the right thing to do, then do it. But if you feel that you don't need to wait until you're married, or you don't even want to get married, then have sex all you want.

Watch who you sleep with though.

[77o77]

well i really can't speak for/on anyone else here besides myself because virginity could be a big thing to some people, but to me it's not that big of a deal it's not like the whole world is gonna change if u fuck for the first time, nothing new happends so why wait til u get married?

the only reason why i think it's a big deal to some people is because they r Religious

Really? So you dont see it as anything special? I feel like that takes away the meaning & the pureness of marriage. Idk, to me it's much more than just a fuck.

Yeah i agree but all the girls dont have as much "fun" the first time. To me it kinda ruins it if the girl, and I both dont have any fun caz it hurts to much. I dont want to ever hurt a girl, and having them yelling in pain faintly its not fun. I think that the first time should be special but seriously by the time you get married idk about you but id rather have fun. girls should be "loosed" a LIL bit before you have it with someone your married to,,,, thats just me. I fucked up the first time by doing it with some girl without thinking what she thought. Ive never felt the same about girls

[Nick. Y]

I think 16 would be a proper age to lose your virginity, don't matter if you're a boy or a girl..I lost mine when I was 18..I had a girlfriend before that, a known slut..Despite that- I really liked her,I wanted to be with her, but it was weird, why she didn't want to straddle her legs for me every time we reached that point..Our relationship was short, because she decided so, which pissed me off.. then I went on a trip to Germany with my brother and he took me to the "Red Lanterns" and there I saw such a beautiful and fine Ukrainian prostitute I couldn't help but pay her and bang the bitch..So from that moment, this was my way- get money, buy whores,you'll spend the money on a girlfriend anyway..If you're a boy and don't have a special girl-lose your virginity to a prostitute, she'll give you more pleasure than your girlfriend