Thoughts on opening up to people?

[mdemaz]

Like a boss.

[Words]

I bottle my shit up inside, I find it's better people don't know more than they need to about my problems. When I do open up (rare) It doesn't seem to make my situation any better, and usually gives the other person something to worry about. My philosophy:
I have enough shit to worry about, you have enough shit to worry about. Let's not let each other worry more than we need to.

[D Chronic]

Seems like you can't trust people these days, it's sad, really.

[J.R.]

Seems like you can't trust people these days, it's sad, really.

Yup. Fuck people.

New subject then,

Do you open up to family/ Partners?

[D Chronic]

Seems like you can't trust people these days, it's sad, really.

Yup. Fuck people.

New subject then,

Do you open up to family/ Partners?

Some family members i can trust, some i simply can't.

[Sam.]

Seeing the Subject in hand I would like to quote a famous Proverb.

"A closed mouth catches no flies"

From what I have understood is open up to people in matters that suits the situation.The situation does play an Important role,because if for example you want to make a confession to your parents and they are not in the mood to listen anything, then your words can have a negative effect & your words maybe taken in other terms.Basically you need to adapt yourself to the environment .

To say in other words if you wanna open up to people and make them understand properly then try to make that other person comfortable 1st ,take them into your confidence and then go for it.

No matter who that person is ,no matter what relation you share with them open up to a level and the level should be based on how much you know that person's behavior ,like & dislikes.

[JamaicanPattlez]

Find a best friend who's a girl and open up to her. Girls are a lot better to talk to then guys when it comes to personal things.

Couldn't agree more. And the sad thing about life is, there's not really many people you can go to, or to trust. If your house was on fire, being fumigated or had some sort of issue, those buddies you know probably won't have you over. They'll make some excuses (Some will actually be real though) and you realize that out of your group of let's say 50 friends, maybe like 4-5 of them are your real friends. You can't really trust too many people in life, because it's always the ones close to you that get ballsy to stab your back. Relatives and Family are two different things, like said earlier. For me... My family is my immediate family in a sense, but I'd have to say my small inner circle would be my true family.

[mdemaz]

Don't trust anybody, be yourself, don't let a girl change who you are, don't listen to faggots that are on a road to the shitter, and bi-win.
That's all I can say.

[JamaicanPattlez]

Don't trust anybody, be yourself, don't let a girl change who you are, don't listen to faggots that are on a road to the shitter, and bi-win.
That's all I can say.

Listen to this. If a girl forces you to change, don't. You should always improve when you WANT to. When you're forced to, you won't like it. You were born you, and you'll hopefully die you, so why complicate it during the middle?

[mdemaz]

Don't trust anybody, be yourself, don't let a girl change who you are, don't listen to faggots that are on a road to the shitter, and bi-win.
That's all I can say.

Listen to this. If a girl forces you to change, don't. You should always improve when you WANT to. When you're forced to, you won't like it. You were born you, and you'll hopefully die you, so why complicate it during the middle?

I sorta meant to say..Don't let a girl make you WHO you are..
XD

[JamaicanPattlez]

Don't trust anybody, be yourself, don't let a girl change who you are, don't listen to faggots that are on a road to the shitter, and bi-win.
That's all I can say.

Listen to this. If a girl forces you to change, don't. You should always improve when you WANT to. When you're forced to, you won't like it. You were born you, and you'll hopefully die you, so why complicate it during the middle?

I sorta meant to say..Don't let a girl make you WHO you are..
XD

Lmao that's related to it too! Lol cause I know SO many of my friends that changed when they got girlfriends. Not even in a normal way, they just became bitch-made.

[mdemaz]

Sometimes, people want what they can't have and it's too damn bad..

[EminemBase]

It depends on what kind of a person you are.

I find it hard to make friends or relate to people now, the older I've gotten... the more different I've become from everybody around me.

I was popular in school, I'm not an unliked person or anything, I just have mood and social issues and don't feel like I am the same as other people. I feel defected.

BUT... I have like a few close friends and, I divulge every detail of my mind to them. But this isn't necessarily a choice, it's just the way I am. Which is ironic to how I am with new people which is fairly quiet and guarded, as most I presume are...

Though I let people into my thoughts pretty easily. I find it healthier to be constantly honest and have no secrets, so therefore - nobody ever has anything on me. So I'll just say openly embarrassing things about myself and my own life, sarcastically, before anybody else can. You always win then.

If you don't naturally open up to people though then you shouldn't force it. Unless you feel this is something you're being deprived of and something you would benefit from. If that's the case, I think you should study communication skills, learn how to ignore your self-esteem and ego and let information flow. If you simply think that you 'should' do because others do or to comply to some kind of social norm in your head though, fuck that.

Just do what makes you comfortable.

[J.R.]

New topic in the topic.

Someone tells you something and it's bugging you. You've gotta vent.

Question is. Do you, or do you not and is it wrong.

[J.R.]

For example. If a friend were dying, would you open up to other friends about it?